INTRODUCTION
This is a copy of the Introduction to the book”What Men and Women Really Want – 6 Tantric Sex Secrets” by Ally Thomas
What is Tantra?
Tantra* is a buzz word that most people have heard, but not that many really understand. Some people think it’s a form of kinky sex, or have heard that Sting has Tantric sex for over five hours. Others believe that it is esoteric, involving meditation and ritual. I hope to explain its simplicity and share with you some practical, fun ways to use Tantra in your life.
Hi I’m Ally Thomas. Since July 2009, I have taught, pleasured and inspired thousands of people, educating them about Tantra and sacred sexuality, helping them to tune in to their sexual and spiritual energy and learn how to love themselves more fully and deeply.
My first experience of Tantra was in 1996. While visiting a girlfriend in Adelaide, I noticed a brochure entitled ‘Women’s Sexuality Workshop’ on her coffee table, which I just had to read! Barbara Carellas, a world renowned Tantra Teacher, was coming to town. My friend had done a women’s workshop with Barbara a while ago, and told me that she teaches women how to have an orgasm without touching themselves. Intrigued, I booked in. It was an amazing experience – I, and most of the other women in the workshop, succeeded in learning how to have incredible energetic orgasms! I ended up attending a further three of her workshops for women. I then attended Barbara’s Tantra Workshop evening for men and women. This was my very first taste of Tantra, and I was curious to learn more. Since then I have read and studied many books, attended courses and seminars, practised with friends and lovers, passionate to learn and experience more Tantra.
Why am I so passionate about Tantra in my life? My experience of Tantra is that is unites the physical and the spiritual, joining awareness with breath, to balance and harmonise my masculine and feminine energies and enable me to experience unlimited joy and bliss.
Why do I love teaching about Tantra by giving a Tantra Massage, or, as I call it, a Tantra Pleasure Experience? My first pleasure is feeling my hands stroking and pleasuring the other person’s body; the second is from watching and hearing their ecstatic moans and groans, and listening to them trying to describe their feeling of delicious euphoria – the tingling, vibrating energy spreading through their body. My third pleasure is taking them to another place, a space that is hard to describe in words, leaving them relaxed and energized at the same time!
The benefits of Tantra experiences include:
- relaxation or euphoria
- healing of physical pain
- experience a Spiritual Energy Orgasm
- relief from stress
- surrendering to pleasure instead of feeling that you have to give back.
There are many ideas and misconceptions about Tantra, because it’s not easy to adequately describe the experience of Tantra. Some words and testimonials that attempt to define it are given in Appendix 1. However, as I often say, it’s like trying to explain sex to a virgin!
This book is for the adventurous man or woman, ready to pleasure and cherish his or her lover. You will need a bit of patience to practice the ancient art of Tantra, which can lead to a satisfied, contented partner, an increase in your masculine or feminine energy, greater confidence and mutual ecstasy.
In this exciting book, I will give you six powerful tips gained from over 18 years of experience learning and practising Tantra; teaching using Tantra massage, playshops, workshops and presentations; and coaching and counselling thousands of men, women and couples all over Australia and New Zealand.
You will discover:
- How to last longer in the bedroom – what every man wants…in Chapter 1
- How to relax and pleasure a woman with sensual massage techniques – and have her begging you for more…in Chapter 6. What every woman really wants!
- In Chapter 3…you will learn how you can have a spiritual energy orgasm by yourself, without touching yourself!
- How to connect at a deeper level with each other and pleasure your lover more – the secret that every passionate couple wants to know…in Chapter 5
- In Chapter 4…Tantra massage and yoni massage
How to take your sexual experience to another level with Tantric sex techniques.
Each chapter title is based on the letters in the word TANTRA:
T is for Teasing …
A is for Aah! (Breathing)
N is for Now
T is for Touch
R is for Rapport
A is for Amore (Love)
You can read any chapter first, as it’s not sequential. Just jump in wherever you like! The underlined links refer to words in the extensive Glossary.
Each letter stands for an aspect of Tantra that you can use and practice – by yourself or with a partner. Tantric techniques can help to improve your sex life, enrich your relationship, empower your lover and reach higher fulfillment together, inside your sacred space (a special physical place, usually separate from your bedroom, where you create an area for your Tantra practice) as well as in your bedroom. I am using examples which are based on my personal experience with lovers, Tantric consorts and clients. All testimonials have permission to be used, and names have been protected, as confidentiality is essential in sacred sexuality and intimacy.
Sexual dysfunctions and other sexual problems experienced by men and women can often be healed with application of natural Tantric methods, and sexual education.
Use this book to help you surrender to enjoyment, release stress and relax more, and give and receive pleasure – so that you can enjoy more joy and bliss in your life. The main key in Tantra is love: loving yourself, loving your partner, and connecting your hearts, bodies, emotions, minds and spirits together in harmony and bliss. What women really want (and men too) is to be loved, to feel loved, to be touched with love, to hear that they are loved, see that they are loved, to taste and smell love. Here are some old and new ways to do this.
At the end of each chapter, you will find a Tantric Exercise. These exercises are practical ways to bring the experience of Tantra into your life and relationships. There are also links to videos, stories, and Tantra techniques throughout the book, which give you practical guidance on how to discover and experience Tantra for yourself and your partner. And to dispel myths, fears and misconceptions about Tantra, Tantra massage and sacred sexuality I also include some powerful educational information.
For more information see the Appendices. Words in bold are linked and defined in the Glossary.
I hope you have enjoyed this taste of my book – the Introduction. And you also enjoy reading, sharing and practising the exercises, starting with ‘T for Tease’ in Chapter one….
For your Tantric pleasure
Ally
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